What I do when I should be studying...or not taking part in a Reality Television show
Don't blame me for the way the river meanders
Published on August 5, 2004 By notsohighlyevolved In Blogging
Ok.

I’m broke.

Interesting way of putting it – broke. Broken, poor, destitute (not that serious). I’ve had no money so long that it seems normal, like this is universal, like no one drives luxury cars or dresses in expensive foreign suits, doing all they can to not smell themselves, not touch themselves, put the fabric and fragrance in between, let it slip in the crack and protect you from you.

Money is the ultimate holiday destination. That’s what it feels like when you have none. You work a bit and some works its way towards you and for a day or two it seems as if you inhabit another dimension, further from home, alien in its detachment from the present. Money gets you thinking of then and later, what you have bought or experienced and what you will buy and experience tomorrow, you can’t occupy the narrow confines of this moment or this thought. Thoughts are too expensive when you have money, they preoccupy you when you could be doing so much else, doing so many other people.

It’s my guilty pleasure that I, at times, enjoy being broke, it feels like being fixed, feels like health and presence of mind. I can read a book without thinking about what book I should buy next, listen to this CD and drift into its subtleties without edging towards the next one and only catching the sledge hammer obviousness. I can watch this film and then find the current taking me onto the net, what’s the director done before, what’s the story, the history, where does it fit?

Someone once gave me a present of four old volumes of philosophy. They handed me something tangible and odorous, something finite and enduring. I love books as presents, the give other people to other people, it’s like introducing one acquaintance to another, knowing that the two will get along. Sometimes it’s allowing someone to have a part of you when you know distance will soon intervene. They can imagine you flicking the same pages, pausing on the same passages. A book as a gift can be the longest kiss. It allows you to taste someone, more than the salt on their lips or the thoughts on their mind. It allows you to answer the question – where does this person live when the lights go out.

This person didn’t just give me a wonderful collection of books, they gave me hours. They gave me time. Uninhabited and unpopulated, simple and transparent, hours where I could forget that things cost, that things are important, that catalogues are the world’s greatest source of reading material.

“A spirit is one simple, undivided, active being: as it perceives ideas it is called understanding, and as it produces or otherwise operates about them it is called the will.” – Berkeley

“…we understand that, as nature has graven her image and that of her author on all things, they almost all partake of her double infinity.” – Pascal

“That which knows all things, yet is known by none is the subject.” – Schopenhauer

Each of the sentences above is an infinite puzzle, a single lines with many aspects, many angles. Each represents a withdrawal from the world of things, from this state of brokenness, a deficiency in the eyes of the world, and it would be wrong of me to say that this perception of deficiency is not mutual.

More importantly, each makes me feel immeasurably wealthy and it has made the giver of these gifts a benefactor, someone who imparts benefit, someone who gives more than they intend, who can never be thanked enough for this impartation, who I hope understands that the giving has lasted long past the gift.

I am more than willing to admit that I am defective, broke, in my own way. I suffer a lack of something that is considered essential, that has altered the meaning of the word survival. I fail to survive. I fail and flail, sink in dense water, I can feel my individual poverty rising around my neck and it feels too much like a tie (and remember I use the qualifier of “individual” for my poverty, my family is not poor, I do not starve).

But! I occupy this presence of mind, the present mind, accounted for and not AWOL, not frolicking with things that are meant to augment me, but will only detract, subtract. All the things that could make less of me and have made less of me every time I have used them.

Expensive clothes scare me as I never feel myself in them. I always feel that someone else should be occupying the manufactured space and I would hate to think that my self esteem and confidence would be tied to something as flimsy as a stitch, as measurable as cloth by the metre.

This is how I feel about all things that are measured first by their price tag and then by their utility and then by their standing in the eyes of others. Their space is not mine and vice versa. I hate possessing things and it would be silly to think that such things can possess you. If you have ever reached the point where you fear for your soul, when you imagine the inanimate possessing you, don’t worry, there is nothing left to possess, nothing left to sell.

I hate possessing things.

I would hate having to be exorcised from something that cares neither one way nor the other who its occupant.

Comments
on Aug 05, 2004
I've only read this once, so I'll probably read it again, and leave you another comment which doesn't encompass how I feel about, or achieve anything more than letting you know I read it .

But nevermind.I relate- I'm always broke myself, and I don't really mind. I've probably been in nearly every financial situaton possible- I've been lower middle class, upper middle class, homeless, and finally- just plain broke. I'm happiest being broke. I always love getting books too, or being written for (damn technology, no one writes letters these days). You're right- there is something very personal about being given a book, a book someone else has loved before you. It's like being given a part of that person that is more permanent but just as physical as them. Books, good books anyway, never stop being useful, or insightful. I'd rather be a book than a person

Damn..that was a rambling. Sorry and thanks for the comments, and letting me bore you about my inability to write about paris. I appreciate the help more than you know.

Dyl xxx
on Aug 05, 2004
a book someone else has loved before you


The volumes i refer to were second hand as well. The giver was aware enough to appreciate my appreciation for age, for things that are beginning to fall apart, to dissolve around the edges, i value them so much i only read them in my most desperate hours.

I'd rather be a book than a person


That is the beautiful thing about this site, at the moment that is exactly what you are. If only it didn't exclude you, the person who wants it the most.

Sorry and thanks for the comments, and letting me bore you about my inability to write about paris. I appreciate the help more than you know.


I can and will say the same for you, even though i bore you for entirely different reasons

and you writing of your inabilities still gave an impression, a resistence, of and to Paris that is as telling as any definitive response to something that to so many is still only a name.

Marco XX
on Aug 05, 2004
Money can buy happiness. That is what people believe. That status, and how much money you have, where you live, what you wear, where you shop, where you eat. Everything has a price tag. It matters to people. because that is what the world is like. We don't compare knowledge, personality. We compare jobs, bank accounts. Money is a huge issue with me. I'm some what of a trust fund kid. I really shouldn't be saying this, but I guess it's the only way to present my view on it. Before I was given my money, I had ambitions, went to college, was having hopes and stuff. The money made me lazy. lack ambition. It infuriates me that moeny can effect me that much. Its made me a boring one dimensional person, and I hate it. ramble, sorry! Ignore me...I agree with everything you said
on Aug 06, 2004
Its made me a boring one dimensional person, and I hate it. ramble, sorry!


I'm worried Sally. I was reading a thread on Mig's blog that had exactly the same sentiment and it leaves me with the impression that what we see and what you see are two entirely different people. Now i know this isn't a revelation and that it occurs with most of us but its been a while since i've encountered such self-doubt, almost a self loathing. No one here loves you beacause of the insubstantial or transient, we judge only what you show and everyone has found you worthy. Your sheer goodness and insight has won you so much that can not be bought, that cannot be traded, don't undervalue it because we sure as hell don't.

Marco XX
on Aug 06, 2004
Thanks Marco. You are very kind. This pattern of thought has started because university is coming close and I'm still not sure if it is for me. It's filled me with all these doubts about who I am, where I'm going, and I guess this is coming through in my writing. I will be ok, don't worry about me, I just need to figure out things for myself. I appreciate all the kind words people here offer me, and I do listen to them. Thanks again Marco xxx
on Aug 06, 2004
This pattern of thought has started because university is coming close


Imagine all the fun you should have a university and then halve it. Try and imagine all the work and double it. This should give you a fair indication of what uni is like. If you don't mind liberal doses of work and leisure mingling you shouldn't have a problem. Judging by your performance here on JU you'll do just fine. And remember - firstly, you'll never know if its for you if you don't try and secondly, its a hell of a lot better than questioning your decision to not go a couple of years done the line. You can always drop out if you hate it.

Marco XX
on Aug 08, 2004
"This person didn’t just give me a wonderful collection of books, they gave me hours. They gave me time. Uninhabited and unpopulated, simple and transparent, hours where I could forget that things cost, that things are important, that catalogues are the world’s greatest source of reading material".

that's 'cause this person loves you, i guess.

mig XX
on Aug 08, 2004
that's 'cause this person loves you, i guess.


Intention is everything, I loved that particular gift before the first page was turned.

Marco XX
on Aug 09, 2004
Intention is everything, I loved that particular gift before the first page was turned.


i could think of nobody more deserving.

vanessa XX